Q&A: Antisocial?

(Opinion)

Someone asked me why I don't socialize and have a lot of friends when so many people are drawn to me. Am I antisocial? This is an intriguing question, and the answer lies in self-awareness and accountability. I understand myself and take full responsibility for my words and actions; I don't blame others.

The reason people are attracted to me is the same reason I don't have many friends. I am completely genuine; what you see is what you get. I am straightforward and honest, meaning I don't sugarcoat, I don't deceive, and I don't lie because I no longer engage in actions that would require lies. Problem solved, no? This wasn't always the case, as there was a time when I embodied everything I now oppose. This perspective comes from personal experience. I understand how those with bad intentions think because I used to be one of them, if you know what I mean.

In essence, I fully agree with the statement, "facts don't care about your feelings," and I share the same sentiment when it comes to upholding the truth. From my perspective, if someone has an issue with this, it remains their issue, not mine, as they'll either come to terms with it or they won't—something beyond my control. When I encounter a falsehood, I feel compelled to correct it to prevent its spread. Understandably, people often don't appreciate being corrected, as it can make them feel foolish, whether intended or not. This is a natural reaction we all face before deciding whether to let go of that feeling and possibly learn something or remain offended, allowing it to escalate without gaining any insight. Both choices have consequences, and we must accept full responsibility for them, with no one else to blame. This level of self-accountability defines who I am today, and I won't change it for anyone.

Given all that I have explained thus far I have learned from vast experience that sooner or later I rub everyone the wrong way and in today's world of promoted narcissism along with monumental amounts of ignorance it doesn't take long for me to offend people which is why my circle is very small in the real world. I believe in quality over quantity and to be in my circle you have to be as authentic as I am, or we will not get along. I never ask anything of anyone that I would not do myself and I hold the people in my circle to the same standards as myself and vice versa. We hold each other to account. Take my word for it guys, those people are getting harder and harder to find.

When it comes to socializing, it's pretty straightforward. I have social anxiety disorder caused by agoraphobia, which can lead to panic attacks if I do not remove myself from the "threat". I want to socialize and plan to do so, but when the time comes, my anxiety intensifies. There's a trauma behind this; it's not just a random fear, making it quite challenging to control. As a result, I try to avoid groups of people whenever possible because crowds are difficult for me. Unfortunately, this sometimes affects my interactions with people I know, trust, and care about. I just can't be around groups for very long. Strangers have a similar effect on me, though to a lesser degree. On the positive side, this has honed my ability to read people accurately, making it very hard for others to deceive me. People often dislike this because they sense that I can see through them, (you can literally see it in their eyes when it happens) which makes them feel foolish and offended. Right back to that choice.

Naturally, this is just the beginning of understanding the bare minimum basics of this psychological process through common sense and established science. So, keep that in mind.

Something that supports much of what I say is shown here. When I describe myself in this manner, many people often label me as arrogant. However, I don't understand how this would make me feel special or superior because anyone can learn what I have learned; they just need to pick up a book and start. Anyone can transform themselves if they are willing to put in the effort and make the necessary sacrifices. It all begins with self-reflection. Anyone with cognitive ability can do it, which raises the question: Why don't they? It's a choice everyone faces, and many of us are on the verge of making that decision right now. Our actions and words will reveal our choices and define us as human beings, so choose wisely. The good news is that even if you choose wrong you can always change your mind. That is after all the very essence of freedom, freedom of thought.

Authenticity is undoubtedly a double-edged sword. People are naturally attracted to it until it challenges their own beliefs. At that point, depending on their own mentality, they will either overcome their offense and learn or they won't. The very authenticity that attracts them is often what drives them away, and most of the time, they don't leave quietly, creating drama that I prefer to avoid. My refusal to engage in this drama seems to offend them even more, but doesn't that also reflect on their own character?

I am just a messenger guys, a chronicler of events and seeker of truth, nothing more, nothing less. This is my purpose and once I accepted it the viel was lifted revealing a whole new world of knowledge. Think of me and those like as an open invitation to that other world of knowledge. What, if anything one may choose to do with that knowledge is entirely up to them though, isn't it?

So, thanks for the question, but always remember these are my own opinions and thoughts based on my own research, and a whole lot of personal experiences. They are for educational/informational purposes only. ~Ghost

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